Torn Between The Perfect Husband And An Old Flame

From Love Notes Of Joe D' Mango



Dear Joe,

I'm a young , ambitous executive of a top insurance company. I'm 28, single, work-oriented and until recently, very much contented with my love-life. My boyfriend Edward and I are planning to get married next year. In fact, we have made preperations for our life together, having bought a house and lot. Our relatives are all awaiting the happy event.

One saturday, however, I bumped into my former boyfriend, Rene. Rene and I were together for five years, but we broke up because we felt we were to young to get serious about each other. He was my first love, and i know he has not really forgotten me.

I couldn't understand the feeling i had when i met him again , Joe, but something magical gripped me. That meeting led to a series of phone calls and secret dates.

Edward doesn't know of these meetings and I do not want to hurt him. He is precious to me. Although, I've known him for a shorter time than Rene, I believe he will make a perfect husband. But i am so confused. Now, I am not enthusiastic about my approaching wedding day.

Please help me Joe. I am so confused. I know how unfair I am being to Edward, but I just cannot tell him how i feel. And I realize I still have feelings for Rene.

What shall I do? Time is running out.

Grace

Dear Grace,

Marriage is a bond that is meant to last a lifetime. Its permanency is the very reason why we have to be positively sure of our intention to marry someone. I know Edward is the better candidate but after that unexpected turn in your life you realize that somehow, whatever was still unresolved in the past is still very much a part of you today.

Rene came just about the perfect time . Grace, before we finally solemnize our vows for marriage, our relationship with out would be life-long partner must always stand the final test. Somehow , God has his way of making us aware of our real feelings which we could use to validate our decisions to marry someone. But God doesn't make these decisions for us. He just opens our eyes and allows us to see what truly lies within our hearts.

This is not just a test but also a path which you have to take. It won't be easy, for the road you will choose will decisively play an important role in your life. Don't get too easily carried away by sweeping emotions. Sometimes our hearts can mislead us and impair our rational and sensible judgement. But, you can also never discount the possibility that what you still feel for Rene could be the real thing.

Give yourself a little more time. Pray for guidance and enlightenment. You can never row a boat on two rivers at the same time. Be truthful to yourself and be honest with Edward. If it is Rene you still love and truly want to be with, then there is no point in letting Edward hang on to something that isn't there anymore and blindly hope for someone who never truly belonged to him.

Joe