The Happiest and Saddest Day

From Love Notes Of Joe D' Mango


DEAR Joe,

It was three years ago when I became friends with a guy I met through a mutual friend. It was hard not to like him. He was sweet, charming and thoughtful. He became the friend I would call when I couldn't sleep at three in the morning. I woke up one morning and realized I couldn't imagine my life without him.

I had no illusions about the relationship because I knew he had a girlfriend from the start. I knew I was special to him, but did he love me? I was much too afraid to know the answer. I just held on to what we had, just happy to be with him, knowing deep in my heart that it wouldn't last and yet hoping against hope that it would.

And then one day he told me his girlfriend was pregnant. I felt like someone had put a knife through my heart and twisted it in really deep. I knew at that moment that I had to let him go. I didn't want him to see that the happiest day of his life was the saddest day of mine. But though I was slowly dying inside, a part of me was happy because I knew he was happy. Walking away from him was the hardest thing I've ever had to do but I never looked back, afraid that if I did I wouldn't have the strength to let him go.

It's been a year now since we last spoke. Even though we made a vow to stay good friends, there was also an unspoken understanding between us that I needed time away from him to give me a chance to heal. There are days when I still miss him badly and I wonder if I can ever really let him go. I know one day I will love again. But for now I just take it one day at a time knowing that if I make it through the day, then tomorrow will be easier.

Sincerely,

Gabrielle

Dear Gabrielle,

Thank you for sharing your story with us. Sometimes just letting it out can make a big difference. A lot of people are caught up in the past and choose to remain there because that is where their beautiful memories linger. Stepping out of it would mean a reality that hurts. And most of us choose to remain in the past because that is where there is less pain.

Yes, it's true that time heals all wounds, that one day our hearts will heal and when that day comes, we will be able to love again.

Let us always remember that the broken pieces of ourselves are the foundation with which we build a stronger and better us. Many who have loved have experienced pain. Look everywhere. There are people who bear the scars of their failures but they are happy. And when we ask them why, they would tell us that they are happy not because they have failed but because they have moved on and given themselves the chance to find love again.

Joe